Ok. So we had our little "outing" with our new friends. I have to say.....No, I have to think...the older you get, and the more set in your ways, it's harder to really let yourself go. I remember way back when, I had friends....Diane, Kim, Terri, Mary, and others. We accepted each other. We were too young to know any better! But we got along. We weren't judgemental. But I gotta tell ya....when you get older and try to make new friends, everything is on the table. Now these people are nice. Really nice. But she is "all about me" and dramatic!. He, well he doesn;t have an opinion about anything, unless she approves it!! We were the ones who had to ask about music, movies, what they like for sports, what they do for fun. Grunt answers. Grunt answers. Now we are not the "do all" kind of people, but WHAT DO YOU LIKE TO DO??????
Is that so hard to answer??? Living in a city is cool, and especially here. But making new friends in your 40's is so freakin weird!! I spent last weekend with my Mom and my stepdad and by God, they are cool. No judegements......And I love hanging with my sister and Bro in law. They get me. Maybe I'm trying too hard??? I dont' know. It just sucks, because I have SO MANY fond memories of my friends from the past and we were JUST US....now, you have to make sure you are "politcally correct" and all that jazz.
Anyway, I'm a little disappointed. But we will see them again...no doubt. I'm just wondering why is it so hard to be ourselves when we reach this age/stage of our lives? The answer is this: we have lived life long enough that we are set in our ways. We expect things of other people....good or bad, that is the bottom line.
My advice to my younger people....you have friends now.....................DON'T EVER LET THEM GO.
Friendship 101.
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Totally agree mom! I think for me it is soooo hard to meet new friends, its hard to open up all over again, to trust new people, its a lot of work. It is something I struggle with all the time.....
ReplyDeleteIt is very hard to meet new people especially in a small town!!
ReplyDeleteHey Lori, so true. We have been in Des Moines 10 years and have a good group of friends but still don't have the closeness of the child hood friends. I get what your saying:)
ReplyDeleteI am totally with you. I have "friends"... but not like my high school friends. None of my des moines friends would I call if I really needed something. I think Jodi would drive 2+ hours to come help me before I would ask one of them. Why don't "old people" want to be friends??? :)
ReplyDeleteGood Advice Lori - I'll work on that!
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